For many of our clients, the prospect of telling their parents about an unplanned pregnancy is the most difficult of their immediate challenges. And, in all reality, it's very likely that it will be a hard conversation. We've talked with some of our clients, and they've given us their "top three" for having that conversation with a parent.
1. Decide when you're going to tell your parents.
Giving yourself a set day and time to tell your parents that you're pregnant helps you to start the preparation process. Telling your partner or a close friend when you're planning on talking with your parents can help you stick to your goal. It can be a daunting conversation! Having someone else keep you accountable can help you if you start to get nervous. Setting a day and time to talk with you parents can also help you avoid blurting the news out at an inopportune time. Plan to meet with your parents in a place where you can talk privately, and at a time where you're least likely to be interrupted. It's a conversation that can take quite a while, so giving yourself time and space to talk can be helpful.
It may also be good to plan for a time to talk to your parents again to follow up. They may have strong reactions in the moment, and it's okay if you feel the need to excuse yourself from the conversation. Scheduling a time later to talk again with gives both you and them time to process, cool down, and approach the conversation in a new light. Alternatively, your parents might have a much more calm reaction than you anticipate! Scheduling a time to talk later can still be helpful to give you time to process and to let them know how they can be best supporting you during this time.
2. Have a plan.
This will probably be a shock and surprise to your parents. They may have a lot of questions about what you're thinking, what your plan is, and they may even want to know how they can be involved. Knowing what your plan is beforehand can help you answer these questions, and engage your parents more in the conversation about how they can support you.
3. Have someone with you.
Many of our clients have found that having their partner or a close, trusted friend their with them is an amazing support in what can often be a very intimidating conversation. Tell your plan to whoever is coming with you, and they can help answer questions from your parents.
Telling your parents about an unexpected pregnancy can be an intimidating conversation. The sooner you start preparing yourself for it, the more confident you'll feel. Need help figuring out your plan? Not sure what figuring out your plan even means? Our nurses are very skilled at providing a safe place for you to process through your situation and your options, and can help connect you with resources in the community! Call our office at 307-745-3444, or send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a free and totally confidential appointment.
We are thrilled to kick off our summer REAL Essentials classes with a 5th grade girls group! Certified instructor Elaine Taylor is working with one of our incredible volunteers to run classes this week for our students.
REAL Essentials stands for Relationship Education and Leadership, and seeks to empower students by providing age-appropriate lessons about self-esteem, responsibility, healthy relationships, and body development. Our hope is to equip these students with knowledge now so that they are prepared when they encounter difficult relational decisions. It is our firm belief that students who have a healthy sense of self and are equipped with healthy relationships with a trusted adult are better able to set and maintain relational boundaries. We want our REAL Essentials students to make decisions founded on accurate information and a positive self-image; not fear or pressure.
If you're interested in our REAL Essentials classes, please check out the information about our summer sessions HERE, or give us a call at 307-745-3444!
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